Adventures In Dating Part One
Ok - maybe two posts in one night is a little much - but I am still feeling my way through this blog thing.
For the last 14 months or so, I have been single. Completely single for the first time in my adult life. I have to admit that for the most part, I kind of like it. I like having peace and quiet (relatively speaking since I am raising a bipolar 17 year old by myself). I do not have anyone complaining about my kid, complaining about the animals, inappropriately groping at me in social situations, farting and being generally annoying. (ok, most of that was aimed at my most recent ex - yes I still harbor some resentment).
I dated my most recent ex for about four out of five years. We broke up after about 2 years, and then got back together about a year later. Our last break up was his doing. Has anyone been dumped by text message? After dating for a fairly long time? After having dated your best friend, someone you have known for 20+ years? Yeah, it was a treat. I can't believe that I even spoke to him after that, but I did. We tried to get the friendship back, but it just wasn't the same.
I found out that while we were together he was going through my cell phone and personal belongings, searching for proof I was being unfaithful. That's a great way to treat your best friend! While we were trying to do the friend thing again, he just couldn't understand boundaries, and kept trying to come on to me, to grope at me when we hung out together. Yet he was the one who dumped me, who did not trust me. Guys! I just do not get them. I thought he was IT. I was expecting him to move in with me within a few months of when he dumped me.
When my son first started having problems at the beginning of last year, the not-yet-ex was a total ass. When I called him to tell him what was going on, he was very supportive, for about five minutes. Then the conversation degenerated into him telling me my kid was a dirtbag loser who would never amount to anything and that he and all of my friends and family hated my son. He was mean and hurtful (and also in a bar, drinking at 11:00 in the morning!). It totally blew me away. About three weeks later was the kiss off text message. Jack-ass could not reach me on my cell all day because my phone was upstairs and I was downstairs watching tv, so he dumped me by text that I didn't even see for hours. He did not bother to call my house phone to see if I was home, he just assumed I was screwing around on him, and got drunk and blew me off.
Can you believe I tried to get him to change his mind? Yes. I was an ass. Believe me, it was not long before I told him I had had it and was done being jerked around. After the text dumping, he went a few months wanting me back, not wanting anything to do with me. I am proud to say I finally told him I was done. We could MAYBE be friends some day, but the jerking around bullshit was over.
Now, over a year later, we barely correspond. We went through a few months of hanging out after work at his apartment, watching tv. That was when he kept trying to get me to sleep with him, not caring that we were not in a relationship. Friends with benefits is a topic for another day - but what is it about guys? Commit and have a real girlfriend or just pick up some skank in a bar!!
Well, I wanted this to be a little more upbeat and humorous, but I think I just needed to get that out. I have other dating experiences from the last year or so that may be more entertaining. (unless of course any of the guys I dated read this blog!)
For the last 14 months or so, I have been single. Completely single for the first time in my adult life. I have to admit that for the most part, I kind of like it. I like having peace and quiet (relatively speaking since I am raising a bipolar 17 year old by myself). I do not have anyone complaining about my kid, complaining about the animals, inappropriately groping at me in social situations, farting and being generally annoying. (ok, most of that was aimed at my most recent ex - yes I still harbor some resentment).
I dated my most recent ex for about four out of five years. We broke up after about 2 years, and then got back together about a year later. Our last break up was his doing. Has anyone been dumped by text message? After dating for a fairly long time? After having dated your best friend, someone you have known for 20+ years? Yeah, it was a treat. I can't believe that I even spoke to him after that, but I did. We tried to get the friendship back, but it just wasn't the same.
I found out that while we were together he was going through my cell phone and personal belongings, searching for proof I was being unfaithful. That's a great way to treat your best friend! While we were trying to do the friend thing again, he just couldn't understand boundaries, and kept trying to come on to me, to grope at me when we hung out together. Yet he was the one who dumped me, who did not trust me. Guys! I just do not get them. I thought he was IT. I was expecting him to move in with me within a few months of when he dumped me.
When my son first started having problems at the beginning of last year, the not-yet-ex was a total ass. When I called him to tell him what was going on, he was very supportive, for about five minutes. Then the conversation degenerated into him telling me my kid was a dirtbag loser who would never amount to anything and that he and all of my friends and family hated my son. He was mean and hurtful (and also in a bar, drinking at 11:00 in the morning!). It totally blew me away. About three weeks later was the kiss off text message. Jack-ass could not reach me on my cell all day because my phone was upstairs and I was downstairs watching tv, so he dumped me by text that I didn't even see for hours. He did not bother to call my house phone to see if I was home, he just assumed I was screwing around on him, and got drunk and blew me off.
Can you believe I tried to get him to change his mind? Yes. I was an ass. Believe me, it was not long before I told him I had had it and was done being jerked around. After the text dumping, he went a few months wanting me back, not wanting anything to do with me. I am proud to say I finally told him I was done. We could MAYBE be friends some day, but the jerking around bullshit was over.
Now, over a year later, we barely correspond. We went through a few months of hanging out after work at his apartment, watching tv. That was when he kept trying to get me to sleep with him, not caring that we were not in a relationship. Friends with benefits is a topic for another day - but what is it about guys? Commit and have a real girlfriend or just pick up some skank in a bar!!
Well, I wanted this to be a little more upbeat and humorous, but I think I just needed to get that out. I have other dating experiences from the last year or so that may be more entertaining. (unless of course any of the guys I dated read this blog!)
Interesting topic. I think guys and girls are just thinking from totally different views.
ReplyDeleteThanks. And I agree. we are wired differntly.
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